Conception to 12 Weeks: 1 Introduction
Hey everyone. This is an introduction for expectant dads. It starts at conception, moves through the 5 phases of pregnancy, and ends at “the birth”. Why are we doing this? In the 1970s, hundreds of ordinary parents developed all the Birthing Better skills. While most families are familiar with childbirth preparation, education, and/or information books and classes that introduce some birth skills, there are almost no skills taught to dads-to-be throughout pregnancy. In fact, if you search on the internet for pregnancy and dads, you’ll find a lot of information. However, no one focuses on the skills you need to grow within yourself from conception to birth. Birthing Better families wanted to move beyond “the birth” and know how to get sorted and closer throughout pregnancy.
Our New Zealand charitable trust dedicates this series to all the dads who helped develop these skills. For all our husbands, partners, brothers, nephews, sons and grandsons.
Difference between mums-to-be and dads-to-be
As a dad-to-be, you need to use your pregnancy as a time to grow from being a ‘man’ to being a ‘father’. This is true for women as well. Pregnancy is the transition time and “the birth” is the very specific gateway through which both of you must pass in order to ‘parent’.
The difference between women and men are highlighted as soon as conception occurs. Your baby is biologically mandated to grow. So, this internal growth inside a woman pulls and pushes her into her own growth. However, Men must CHOOSE to grow. Or they usually get left behind to play catch-up after “the birth”, and often feel incompetent.
We are going to share with you the skills that you must develop from conception through the 5 phases of pregnancy to “the birth”. Thankfully, the skills are the same for all the phases of pregnancy. You only have to use them differently. In other words, you mature these skills.
Your bottom line
Growing your skills throughout pregnancy is not rocket science. From this introduction onwards, it will become common sense once you learn them.
ALL MEN DESERVE TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT AND KNOW THERE ARE SKILLS TO HELP THEM GROW INTO FATHERHOOD. Yes…that had to be put in bold!
Once you get to 24 weeks, you need to learn very practical skills to prepare for “the birth” as well as birth-coaching skills. We want you to know where we’re headed.