Online Childbirth Information
Online childbirth information in a different way
You can find online childbirth information all over the Internet. In fact, there are hundreds of websites that repeat pretty much the same ‘information’. This means you, like so many of us, honestly believe that everything that needs to be known about childbirth is already out there and there’s nothing more.
Can you find childbirth education on the Internet? Sure. There are fewer websites that take information and then encourage you to think through all the pros and cons of the diverse bits of information. In other words, childbirth information actually leads to child birth education. Information should stimulate you through a thinking process. That thinking process has become part of the ‘choices’ you make and articulate in your conventional Birth Plan.
Keep in mind the word ‘conventional’ when tagged to Birth Plan and we’ll come back to that in a moment.
CHILDBIRTH PREPARATION is different from gathering ‘information’ and ‘educating’ yourself about all the medical care that might be involved in your birth. When you prepare yourself for the birth of your baby, is more about learning and practicing specific skills. The phrase childbirth preparation rolls off the tongue better than childbirth skills. But, the word ‘skills’ is much more specific than ‘preparation’ and that’s important.
Do some research right now and search: childbirth information, childbirth education and childbirth preparation. Then search childbirth skills. It’s interesting to say the least.
Childbirth skills on the Internet offers many fewer choices … yet birth and birth-coaching skills are infinitely more important than information, education or even preparation. Why? Because information goes out of your head. Your conventional Birth Plan may not unfold as you want and the time you took to educate yourself. And if preparation doesn’t lead to using skills in your birth then you’re still at the mercy of the Unknown as your birth unfolds.
Everyone is DIFFERENT
We each have a unique life. Our pregnancy is also unique. It’s easy to think that our differences make it impossible for us to share anything about pregnancy and birth. In other words, we share a commonality that we often don’t recognize. For example, 100% of pregnant women will give birth one way or another. Every pregnant woman is carrying her baby inside her uterus and not in her big toe. If a woman labors during birth, each has contractions. If a woman has a surgical birth, her baby delivers through her uterus and abdomen and not from her ear! Let’s get real … pregnancy and birth is MUCH MORE about our commonality than our individuality. We just don’t know that really so we focus on our unique self and circumstances.
Let’s consider some of our individuality
- If you’re a first time mother-to-be you’ll have different questions and want different skills than your partner who has been at three previous births.
- If you’re having a non-laboring Casesarean because you want or need one, you’re different from a woman who desperately wants a vaginal birth but has been pressured to have a non-laboring Caesarean.
- If you had a great first birth, terrible second one and now confused, you’ll want birth skills that help you stay in control no matter how this third birth unfolds.
- If you’re a man who was totally traumatized at your last birth, you’re looking for skills that help you heal and feel ok with the coming birth.
- If you plan a home birth and end up with a hospital birth you’ll want skills to help you work with all the interventions.
- Should we go on? Name your unique situation then spend time thinking about our shared commonality!
Childbirth information skills must work well
Too many families take a childbirth education course and end up saying: ‘Everything went out the window when birth happened’. That tells us something SIGNIFICANT. Many people have used some of the other methods and found them wanting.
Birthing Better childbirth skills were developed by families. They developed birth and birth coaching skills that worked! In fact, Birthing Better families say after their birth: ‘We managed so well together’ or ‘Having skills made all the difference’ or ‘Birthing Better needs to be absolutely everywhere’.
What makes the difference? When you learn skills for a particular type of birth then you often feel at a loss when that isn’t the birth you have. Birthing Better skills are for ALL births. Birthing Better families just committed to using skills while they birthed their baby or while their baby was being born. This is hugely and significantly different. Birthing Better sees the birth of our child to be the most important aspect rather than the ‘type’ of birth.
No matter what type of birth you plan, want, hope for or ACTUALLY HAVE you want your baby’s birth experience to leave you with wonderful, empowered and positive memories. You play a huge part in how to get that POSITIVE, EMPOWERED BIRTH. If you lack skills you are just hoping you have a better birth. When you are skilled you will birth better. Those two words and their order tells it all. You might have a better birth without skills but you will birth better with skills.