So much focus in pregnancy, birth and early parenting is on the woman and that is wrecking havoc in families.
First … let’s get something straight. We are ALL human beings. We love being skilled. We want to have the skills to do the task/job in the role.
Second … when we aren’t skilled, we know it. We can feel useless, helpless and frustrated.
Third … preparing for birth, being at a birth, being a father means you need the right skills. No one has directed you to any at all because pregnancy and birth is now all about the woman’s ‘CHOICES’. You’re really just tagging along.
Fourth … being at a birth without skills leaves both women and men vulnerable to experience birth trauma
Fifth … women carry their birth trauma into their relationships with the baby and partner. If a woman also blames the father for her trauma, this hurts the family.
We’re going to talk about fathers and birth trauma, how to avoid it and how to heal it. Who are we healing? A human being who happens to be a man. A man who happens to be a father and who may be a partner.
Our Societies do not need traumatized fathers or mothers. That is why so many fathers and mothers developed Birthing Better skills so they could learn together, grow together then use their skills together.