Stories From Fathers:
‘I was right there, helping. Helping out with the birth of our son in a very real way. An honor and an experience which will stay with me a lifetime and thanks in no small way to the Pink Kit‘.
Danny
‘This stuff is so, so easy for guys to understand! Its sort of like plumbing; if the baby gets stuck, just move this bit here and off we go again. Very practical, hands on information. It should be called ‘The Birth Toolkit for Men’
Bob C.
‘My opinion is simple. If you don’t work with The Pink Kit, you’re a fool’.
Andy W.
‘I was only 16 when I became a dad. I really didn’t get it at first, but once my girl was in labor, it all made sense. We know just how to prepare next time’.
Max
‘We sort of did the internal work, but it was weird to me. My wife had a good labor until she had to push. I could see how tight she was and it hurt her. She tore really, really badly. I know that if we hadn’t done the little we did, that the tear would have been worse. Next time! It took her weeks to recover and having sex hurt for months.’
Bobby M.
‘My first wife and I separated after 7 years and 2 kids. Her births were hard and I wasn’t much use. Looking back, those experiences drove us apart. I knew she was disappointed with me, but I didn’t know anything. When my present wife got pregnant and she wanted me to be involved I had to think really hard about my sense of shame. She showed me The Pink Kit and there was no looking back. We had the most amazing birth. I feel angry that there wasn’t information like this before’.
Paul C.
‘I’d have loved to be pregnant and my wife wasn’t so keen. I leaped in and did the work and she was sort of passive. I’ll never really understand that, but she certainly appreciated my interest, even if it was a bit much. Boy, her body was prepared thanks to The Pink Kit. It was fascinating. Her eldest sister had had a terrible birth and her other sister had had a still born. Looking back, I just think she was afraid. Her labor was very quick. We barely got to the hospital. I was trying to settle her down. She just turned to me and said: ‘If you want to catch this baby, you’d better get down there NOW!’ I did and our son just slipped out of her. Boy does that internal work, work. I just felt so blessed’.
Nathan A.
‘All the men in the hospital antenatal classes seemed so bewildered and often talked about feeling left out and unprepared. My wife and I were amazed. I felt just the opposite…prepared and ready to go. We know The Pink Kit made all the difference in our birth. In our class we were the only couple who didn’t use pain relief and 60% had a cesarean’.
Frank C.
Stories From First Time Fathers:
First time fathers don’t always believe they will be really useful in labor. Put in the time and effort and you’ll feel as this father did.
‘What on earth is a “Pink Kit“? I quizzed my wife. And I carried on asking ignorant bloke-type questions in my mind. Will I understand it? What’s in it for me? Well, why don’t you go through it and tell me what I need to know?
I’m glad I got involved and took more than a passing interest. Looking back now, the thought of going through pregnancy and birth without the practical knowledge and insights that the Pink Kit gave me is a daunting one. It helped me on several levels, not least, it meant I could have a very real role to play; I could experience the birth from a much more knowledgeable standpoint and be part of it, I had more confidence and I was prepared. Perhaps, though, most importantly, I was skilled so that ‘we’ would go through labor together with me being able to provide some real help; not just as a hapless observer who then claims all the credit and waxes lyrical about how hard it was.
Prior to working with the Pink Kit, I was worried about getting in the way, being all fingers and thumbs and so the easy thing to do would have been to stand back and let it all happen around me. It really brings it home to me when I hear other fathers say that there were just hanging around in the background during labor because, well, that’s what expectant fathers do, right?
In practical terms, the knowledge the Pink Kit gave me about my wife’s body, what was going to happen to it and the baby and what we could do to prepare, was immense. We went through the kit in stages, bit by bit; the video, the book, the tape. The crux of it was, that as we went into labor, yes, I was as nervous as the next person but I also knew that I now had the skills and knowledge to draw on as and when they were needed. As labor progressed, we were able to make life more comfortable and help things along with the hip-lifts, sit-bone spreads and sacral rocks to name but a few. The Internal Work, while we had struggled with the discipline of doing it regularly at times, was time very well spent.
I wasn’t the one doing all the hard work but I did seem to spend the whole 16 hours of labor telling my wife to relax and focus on her breathing. Simple stuff really, but as I came to realize, essential. Focus, breathe, focus, breathe. Here comes another contraction, focus, breathe. At times during the labor we did need to do the exercises to help move the baby down and to help relieve some of the pain so we just got on with it, as we’d been shown. Take it from me, if you try nothing else, the sit bone spread gets great results!
Had the Pink Kit not enlightened me as to what was going on and just why breathing, relaxing and moving into certain positions was beneficial, I would have been one of those guys at the back of the room feeling helpless and passive.
For me, the tangible benefits of the Pink Kit are really highlighted not just by me recalling my own experience but when I see fathers-to-be without those skills – like going into unknown territory without a map. Sure, they will get through in the end, but I found that investing a little time and effort made me a lot better prepared for the journey and what to do to stay on track.
And so as it was, I was right there, helping. Helping out with the birth of our son in a very real way. An honor and an experience which will stay with me a lifetime and thanks in no small way to the Pink Kit‘.
‘When I first saw this kit, I sort of rolled my eyes then knuckled under and got into it with my wife. And did I get a surprise….This stuff is so so easy for guys to understand! Its sort of like plumbing; if the baby gets stuck, just move this bit here and off we go again. Very practical, hands on information. It should be called ‘The Toolkit for Men at Birth’.
Thomas D.
This first time father had this to say about The Internal Work
‘Anything you can do, as a man and husband, to help your wife have a better birth, do it. If your wife tells you to do The Internal Work with her and don’t think about sex, then just do it. If you’re embarrassed that you’re doing it, don’t tell anyone. Frankly, I just felt it was my responsibility although I didn’t know what I was actually doing.
In labor, all the work we did together paid off. When I saw our daughter born into my hands, I can tell you I was pretty proud of how I had made certain my wife could open up to let such a big object out. My advise to other fathers. It’s your responsibility as well. I know I’m a better father and husband now and I’m a better man.’
Gregory U.
Fathers Who Used The Pink To Heal From A Traumatic Birth:
‘I am 100% certain that without the knowledge of The Pink Kit we would have had a very different birthing experience. If you are a male and extremely lucky in life, you not only get to witness the birth of your child but also actively take part in that birth. I would only have cut the cord without the knowledge of The Pink Kit. Instead I worked through each contraction, painful as they were. Being with my wife through her pain and knowing that what we did together made each contraction more manageable, made me feel so GOOD. You have to go through the pain together. It’s important’.
At my first wife’s two births, I was expected to be there and do my part. I sat at the head of her bed and held her hand. It was so hard to watch her and not know what to do. After our divorce, I never wanted to get another woman pregnant, that’s how terrible I felt. But I love my second wife ( her first baby) and loved that we were pregnant. I decided to get involved and we spent the time and did the work. We had an absolutely amazing birth, I’m a changed man. Absolutely every man who is going to be a father must help his wife for the last 8-12 weeks of pregnancy. The pay off is so big, don’t miss it.’
James LaTour
Men who have not felt good about previous births are healed by their involvement when they have taken the time to prepare with their partners for birth. Give men tools and they shine.(NOTE: Wintergreen)
‘I am writing to you tonight to share information with you on two totally different births. First birth was in a hospital; Labor was 30 hours long resulting in a 7lb 10oz. Baby boy. Went home after one week.
Second birth was at home. 5 hours active labor, boy 8lb 10oz. Aided with the knowledge we obtained from the pink kit classes and the help from an extremely conscientious midwife.
My wife and I were up to class number 3 (ante natal class at the hospital) when I was talking to a mate at work that had just had a baby girl 2 weeks previously. He asked me if I had heard of the Pink Kit. Which I had not. He then told me how he had learned how to take an active role in the birth of his child. And he beamed when he spoke of how he was able to help. We had recently found the perfect midwife and lo and behold she also mentioned the Pink Kit!
So we went along to classes that are being taught in our local area. I was amazed at how much we did not know about what was happening to my wife’s body and how we could prepare for the birth of our child together. I felt that with this birth I, as a man, could really help my wife with the birth of our child.
But like all good things it takes time and we spent many an evening with the video and book and tape that comes with the kit.
At birth time my wife and I worked as a team using the hip lifts and sit spread to maximize the birthing canall and in 5 long painful hours our baby boy was born. No pain relief was given. And I found that the tremendous pain that my wife went through brought us closer together, because I had a small understanding of what she was going through and most of all I could help and she allowed me to help.
I am 100% certain that without the knowledge of the Pink Kit we would have had a very different birthing experience. Men can be of immense help in birth, when they have knowledge. This knowledge can be found in easy-to-understand non-medical terms. If you are male and are extremely lucky in life, you not only get to witness the birth of your child but also actively take part in that birth.
I would have only cut the cord without the knowledge of the PINK KIT‘.
Vigo L.