Birth is real!

Birth is real!

I know many women who have the privilege of living in modern countries with sophisticated medical systems either will read what I’ve just written as a justification for every type of medical care or some might even deny that birth could be fraught with so much complexity.

Over the past 35 years since The Pink Kit Method began to evolve then come together into available resources, the Natural Birth Movement has was sort of pooh-poohed the notion childbirth is unsafe. At the same time the medical model unconsiders birth to be very risky.

 It’s funny how we think of things really. If you take a 24 hour period of your life, do you think you are likely to die, become sick or injured? If you are in labour during that same 24 hours, are you or the baby likely to die, become sick or injured? The answer to these questions are very curious. In reality, childbirth is obviously more risky for any one woman or baby. So, a woman in labour is more likely to have a problem during labour then if that same woman wasn’t in labour.

However, in the broader reality any woman or baby is less likely to die, get sick or be injured than the general population. In other words dieing in birth is extremely rare compared to how much illness, injury and death there is every day in the general population.

It does seem sensible childbirth has many risks. The purpose of both the medical model and natural birth model is to reduce or try to prevent some of those risks. They just do this differently.

The medical model tries to prevent risks by taking birth away from women. It is profoundly easy to opt for a cesarean section rather than face any potential risks or even the naturally occurring pain in childbirth. It’s also easy to take medications for some pregnancy related problems that could be dealt with very successfully through exercise and diet.

The Pink Kit Method For Birthing Better® neither resides in the medical or natural model of childbirth and is a natural fit in both the medical model and the natural birth model. It certainly can’t prevent some potential problems (diabetes, toxemia, low birth weight etc) but the skills can can be used in every birth. Pregnant women and her support can learn effective and simple skills to work with the baby’s efforts to be born.

These women were fascinated. Once I had gone through the breathing skills, they were totally hooked. Each of them could feel the difference in their own body between relaxed breathing and tense breathing patterns.

That first afternoon we went over the language skills:

  • How to recognize the internal monologue women carry on with themselves in labour and how to combat the very negative talk we can experience.
  • Ho the birth helper can use the right tone, speed and words to help a woman in birth to relax inside.

A Dai (midwife) attended as well. In most traditional cultures the woman’s family are usually the people who help her give birth. The midwife arrives, sits around, does some massage, delivers the baby and aferbirth, does some more massage, cleans up and leaves.

This Dai had not been in practice for two years because she felt people became upset with her when something went wrong. All the women fully appreciated these skills were best learned by women during their pregnancy and their family members. They could instanteously see the benefit from all the women in the village having the same skill base. They also realized these skills were best passed on from mother to daughter or mother-in-law to daughter-in-law.

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