You know there are women out there who are fine with having a cesarean. You’ve probably met and talked with one or more. But you’re not one of them. In fact another c-section is so beyond what you want, will accept or even think about.
You are desperate to have a vaginal birth after a caesarean. That’s all there is to it even if no one else understands. There’s something about having a vaginal birth that means so much to you that you’re desperate.
Desperation is a strange emotion. It either paralyses or motivates. Paralysis can stop you from thinking or acting clearly. Motivation can lead you in the right direction or you can be blind. And then again there’s just the good old fact that you don’t know what you don’t know.
Take a look at this link of birth and coaching skills (PUT LINK). Are they familiar to you? Did you use them in your previous birth while in labour or even while being prepped and in your surgical c-section? Can you imagine how they might help you achieve the vbac you’re desperate to achieve?
If there is any ‘YES’ in you then make the move now and start learning these skills. You and your significant other will learn the skills to prepare your pregnant body to open up, remain soft and mobile and create space for your baby to move down, through and out of your body. As a pregnant woman you will also learn great birth skills so you can stay on top of and in control of your labour! Your husband, partner or other will learn the very best birth coaching skills so he/she can really help you stay in control. Of course, you’ll have to practice these skills and commit to using them no matter where you birth, with whom or what is happening to or around you.
If you’re truly desperate for a vbac then you absolutely MUST get through the labour. To do that your birth and birth coaching skills are essential. The vaginal part only comes at the end of the hard work so do that part skilfully. It’s funny isn’t it that women like yourself who are desperate for a vaginal birth aren’t desperate for the labour! In reality Pink Kit families were desperate for the labour because they knew their skills were the pathway to doing that hard work well.
We hope you’ll put your desperation into action right now and follow the leaders who are showing you the pathway toward success … become a skilled birthing woman and have a skilled birth coach who you love and trust. In fact, the more the merrier. You’ll join a group of thousands of Pink Kit families who skilfully worked through their labour to achieve the vbac for which they were desperate.
{The Pink Kit is now known as BirthingBetter}