First Time Mother-To-Be
Take a deep breath. Sit down and let’s have a chat. In fact, let’s introduce you to Birthing Better families so they can all sit down with you and offer you support as a first-time mother-to-be. You’re pregnant now and facing your first birth. That can be daunting because pregnancy may be new and your coming birth is so unknown that your imagination can run wild.
Take a few minutes and just think about your ideas about your coming birth. How do you picture yourself giving birth? Do you see yourself in a hospital or home? Is your obstetrician or midwife with you? What’s your partner/other doing while you’re giving birth? What are you doing and what is happening to you? How long does your birth take? Do you see yourself actually ‘doing’ the birth or are you an outsider looking in?
Now think about all the birth stories you’ve heard over the years. How do you feel about those? How many were good and how many not so? And what do you want at your birth? And how are you going to get there? What do you want your partner to do?
And how are you going to feel after your first birth? That’s important.
Birthing Better first-time mothers-to-be shared everything you’re experiencing but with Birthing Better skills they felt more confident, capable, steady, focused and ready for birth to unfold. This confidence increased when their partner/other became a great Birthing Better birth-coach. In other words, together the commitment was to use Birthing Better skills no matter what.
What are your anxieties as a first time mother-to-be?
What are your worries as a first time mother-to-be? Most first-time moms-to-be have one or more of these fears or anxieties.
- There’s something the matter with the baby.
- Fear of birth pain.
- Fear your husband or partner won’t really be able to help you.
- What if my Birth Plan changes?
- What am I supposed to do in birth?
As a first-time mother-to-be you can reduce your anxiety by becoming skilled. You are unique and your life situations and circumstances are unique. However, pregnancy is universal and every pregnant woman will give birth. And, here’s a secret … every birth is new and unknown even for women who have had previous births. There is never a way to know what birth will be like. But that doesn’t mean there’s nothing you can do to prepare for your first birth AND manage, handle and stay in control of your birth no matter the situation.
Even if you have a cesarean delivery, you can still enjoy preparing for birth and then use your Birthing Better skills on way to the hospital, while being prepped and during surgery and recovery.
Birthing Better online birth classes are for absolutely ALL BIRTHS.
Yes, childbirth pain hurts really bad
As a first time mom-to-be, Birthing Better Childbirth preparation gives you
- the birth skills to prepare your pregnant body to become a birthing body. Start as close to 24 weeks as possible. That will give you about 16 weeks to work through the skills without feeling rushed. Always go through the skills that speak to you first. There’s nothing linear. Pick and choose.
- birth skills to learn and practice that make sense and work in every birth situation. You will always be ‘doing’ the birth so you’ll always have every moment to use one or more Birthing Better skill even if you need to fill the Time or reduce anxiety.
- birth-coaching skills for your partner/other that are realistic and will help you stay on top of everything that is happening inside you, around and to you.
- confidence, capability, enthusiasm and certainly that you can actively participate in your baby’s birth as it unfolds.
A good goal
The SECRET to childbirth pain is to manage it well with your Birthing Better skills even if you hate every single painful contraction! Give yourself permission to not like the pain but use your willpower, determination, and discipline with your Birthing Better skills to get through each contraction.
No other childbirth preparation lessons, birth classes, birth information or book about birth gives you the skills you really need.
Ask yourself, “What birth skills have I learned in birth books or childbirth classes?” A little breathing. Some relaxation skills or massage? Compare Birthing Better skills to every other method.
Why do so many birth stories start with “Nothing I learned in my childbirth classes prepared for this” or “What I learned in our ante-natal class went right out the window.”
You can be just like the little engine that could. Childbirth is very, very hard work. Make your work easier with your Birthing Better skills. Only you can convince yourself to part with your hard-earned money to give yourself a lifetime of positive birth memories.
And you’re much less likely to experience postnatal depression!
‘Without Birthing Better, I WOULD HAVE screamed for pain relief.’
‘My skilled husband had no fear when I had pain which helped me not be afraid’.
Whether you give birth in a hospital, birth centre or have a home birth, whether you have an obstetrician or midwife OR whether you have interventions or natural birth, YOU will absolutely have a positive birth. You know there will be pain.
Take this opportunity to have a truly wonderful birth experience
Act now. Start now. Don’t wait another day to increase your confidence as a first-time mother. Don’t wait another day to develop your teamwork with your partner.
You will NEVER regret the decision to become a first-time mom-to-be who has the skills to cope with the pain of childbirth contractions. Just imagine, you’ll be even MORE skilled at your next birth!
Don’t let the fear of childbirth last one more day as a first-time mother-to-be
‘When anyone ever asks me about my birth I cannot shut up. I had such an amazing and confidence building experience and I feel very lucky to have learned the skills in Birthing Better’.
Angie T …‘
My husband kept my breathing focused and contributed amazingly to our wonderful experience. I recommend the pink kit to every family who is willing to learn and be open-minded towards learning about their bodies’.
Hope R …
Won’t you like to tell a birth story like these? You can.
Birthing Better skills were developed by moms and dads in the early 1970s in the US and used by many thousands globally in all types of birth. Birthing Better online birthing classes are housed in Common Knowledge Trust.