My wife and I used The Pink Kit with our first child, although I had two children from a previous marriage. We had a great birth and got pregnant a year later. We refreshed our Pink Kit skills, but more than that, we talked about how we could refine this next birth. Although my wife’s first stage was pretty quick, her second stage was sort of hung up and she had felt uncertain and frustrated about the experience. We both noticed that she had spent a lot of second stage bending forward and that seemed to sort of stop the labor contractions. This is hard to explain but it had to do with the sounds she was making. It’s like the sounds were going up rather than down. So, this time, we decided to pay attention to the positions in second stage.
The birth was so fast that we never had a chance to call the midwife, so we had an unexpected birth at home with just the two of us. It was great. Curiously, just before she started pushing, she wanted to lean forward and I had to remind her to keep the top of her body upright which she did. Afterward she told me that she leaned forward because she could suddenly feel our daughter move down inside and it was a bit startling so she leaned forward to stop the experience. Once that contraction finished then she could regroup and stay more upright. Our daughter was born in 3 contractions, thanks to the internal work’.
Jerome P.
Fathers who want a vbac:
‘My wife was so angry after the cesarean: at the midwife, doctor and me. She was determined to have our next child at home. The doctor had told us that both she and our baby would have died and I was absolutely freaked by her anger. How could she be angry? She felt that all the interventions from the castor oil the midwife told her to drink to start labor, to being told by the midwife to push when she didn’t feel like it, to the doctor telling her she wasn’t big enough, were responsible for the outcome. Everything made her angry and she stayed that way for 3 years. She told me that if I didn’t support her then I didn’t love her. I did love her and our child. She didn’t seem to realize that I was terrified the doctor had been right and that she was being too emotional.
She learned about The Pink Kit information and did the work religiously. We fought all the time. She told me to stay out of her face if I didn’t support her choices. ‘It’s my body!’ But she was carrying my child. As the time got closer, we fought more. The care provider finally had us sit down and work out a strategy. First, she had to be willing to get medical help if she felt that she or the baby needed it and she couldn’t be stubborn. Second, if I didn’t feel as afraid and tried to get closer that she won’t push me away
Anyway, she had our baby at home. She had done heaps of the Internal Work and really knew what positions kept her opened. She realized so much about the last birth and what neither of us knew about her body. This time the baby was 1 lb 3 oz BIGGER than our last child and slid out after 6 contractions in 2nd stage. I caught the baby, ham handed and all.
What did I think right after the birth? Why does everyone make it so complicated, it’s like taking a big crap. How do I feel? Well, we’ve certainly healed heaps in our relationship and when we have more, I’m going to help prepare her body as soon as she gives me the nod. We both believe that if we had known this information before our first birth that it would have been an entirely different experience.’
Jose D.
Stories From Grandparents:
‘To be with my son and daughter-in-law at their labor and be able to help in such a wonderful, specific way was beyond my husband’s and my expectations. Oh, how we wish we had had that information. Grandparents should give it as a gift to their children and grand children who are having babies. It was magical.’
I gave The Pink Kit to my daughter after her first birth. I had had 6 wonderful births and her first one was a nightmare and I grieved for her and what she had missed. She and her husband were religious about working together and they had the most amazing birth.
‘My son in law was having his first baby, but this was my daughter’s third. She wanted him to ‘catch up’ so to speak and I gave them The Pink Kit after being told about it by a midwife. I’ve become a wholesaler because I’m so impressed and I know so many other grandparents to be.’
‘My daughter tells me that I’m going to help her when she has her baby and that I’d better know The Pink Kit inside and out.’
Mr. and Mrs. Greyson
Stories … Odds And Ends:
‘My pregnancy in ’96 was text book. Better! I anticipated every moment,even the minor changes as labor was near.I began to leak fluid and my contractions were inconsistent.It being my first, I felt I should be checked.I was 1 cm and was in fact leaking amniotic fluid. My doctor wanted to monitor my contractions. Soon,I was admitted and hooked up with pitocin. Even after going to birthing classes, 6 cm with Pit was all I could handle. I requested an epidural. That was a piece of cake with a contraction at it’s peak. With the epidural, I felt one side of my body mostly. I was 10 cm finally 20 hrs. later. At 10 cm I pushed and pushed with little or no pain relief. I can say that my doctor was very disturbed at the nurse about that. HE resorted to the use of forceps and the vacuum. That was no picnic! My contractions weren’t registering hardly! And I could barely grip my handles on my bed! At the moment of all moments, I was being wheeled away, and pushing all I could down the hall, I would greet my daughter with a mere kiss on the cheek with my arms strapped down at my side. 24 hrs. later Kelly was born! She was 7lbs.15 oz. scoring 9.9 on the apgar scale. She was so beautiful! And at that moment I was thankful for her health. Every tiny finger and toe. I nursed Kelly and held her close. As her heartbeat close to mine, I wished I could of ran the race myself. And then it happened. Every thought like If I arrived at the hospital later…. to If I toughed out the epidural. Why? I’d like to say that I gave birth by VBAC to my son in ’99 but NO! Even though each prenatal visit was preplanned for a VBAC, my same doctor was clearly not in agreement with me. He was concerned with the risks of a rupture.I had some positive comments from my other doctors,but in the end the meeting took place and they agreed that this was best. I can only say that I just gave in. It was emotional and I don’t know weak of me. Our son, Alex was born 7 lbs 11 oz. 9.9 apgar score. I enjoyed their every moment and If there is any c-section quick recovering mama, I’m her! I’m seeing a new doctor now and we hope for another one soon. I’m nervous, anxious and have so many questions that need answers’.
Christie B.
Other Pink Kit Stories:
‘I studied the pink kit and my husband was all for learning the different ‘positions’ especially if it was to help my birthing experience be drug free, which was what I was aiming for. Our beautiful baby girl was born after a relatively stress free and drug free labor. What an amazing experience! Go the sit bone spread! My husband was my rock, the men have to be involved! he kept my breathing focused and all contributed to our wonderful experience. I recommend the pink kit to every family who are willing to learn and be open minded towards leaning about their bodies. Hey!!
Girlie