There’s a joke that giving birth is like sh…ing a watermelon. That’s really an exaggeration. Giving birth is like sh…ing a grapefruit. That’s big enough! There’s an old adage that ‘women will stretch’ … some will and all will be well. Others will not stretch successfully and be damaged for life. Others will tear and heal fine. Others will tear and be damaged for life.
Which one will you be? Prepare your baby’s birth canal. We have got to get real about the 2nd stage of labor. You don’t want your baby to suffer from you having a tight vagina. You don’t want to suffer in your own body because the soft tissue of your vagina is so tight that your vagina (pain having sex), possibly bladder (leaking) or rectum (hemorrhoids and tears) and you are damaged for life.
The birth of your child is one of the most amazing life experiences … both in its positive and negative qualities. We can reduce a great deal of some of the negative by preparing our pregnant body to become a birthing body as part of our childbirth preparation. Preparing your vagina for the 2nd stage of labor is an essential part of your birth preparation. Your vagina is your baby’s birth canal.
You’ll learn the skills on the Internal Work audio in the Birthing Better Complete Birth Skills online birth course. The audio will instruct your partner how to do the preparation from 32 weeks onward. The audio will also guide you to do the Internal Work for yourself. It takes between 5-15min/day or two. Preparing your baby’s birth canal will both reduce damage to your birth canal, shorten 2nd stage and protect your baby’s well being.
It’s more than …
The Internal Work in Birthing Better Childbirth Preparation is not the same as perineal massage. Perineal massage only stretches the small amount of skin between your Vjayjay and your rectum. Instead, you have to soften and make pliable all the soft tissue inside your birth canal … and that includes the muscles that you can tighten up right now.
Are you familiar with your ability to tighten up inside your vagina? That’s called Pelvic Floor exercises. Those are GREAT to do BEFORE AND AFTER PREGNANCY and should NOT be done after 24 weeks pregnancy. You need to soften inside for those last 16 weeks of pregnancy.
If you’re not familiar with how to tighten up (which hinders your baby’s efforts to come down, through and out your vagina) then you have no hope to learn how to soften and open this part of your body. Try doing these things:
Learn how to do Pelvic Floor exercises now so you can compare the difference between ‘tight’ and ‘soft’. YES … your partner likes you ‘tight’ and you might as well. Your baby does NOT like ‘tight’. If you’ve done lots of Internal Work, then within 12 weeks after birth your ‘tightness’ will return.
- Tighten up your rectum … those are some of the muscles inside your baby’s birth canal.
- Draw the bones you sit on together … those are other internal muscles
- Pull your butt muscles together … those are others.
Because our baby feels SO BIG when it’s coming through this soft tissue, it’s instinctive and intuitive to tighten up down there and pull back unless you’ve prepared thoroughly. You must learn to soften and stretch all those muscles and the soft tissue inside that is not ‘muscle’.
Ouch
You’ve probably heard about the ‘ring of fire’. Imagine that this intense stretching and burning sensation can be reduced by your preparation beforehand! Preparing your baby’s birth canal is also essential in keeping your bony pelvis open, helps your cervix to dilate and keeps your pelvis mobile … but that’s another story.”
Birthing Better skills were developed by moms and dads in the early 1970s in the US and used by many thousands globally in all types of birth. Birthing Better online birthing classes are housed in Common Knowledge Trust.