In Part 1 we discussed the lack of honoring the time frame of ‘becoming’ a father in our modern societies. This must change and this three part series is designed to change that.
In Part 1 you learned about the fatherhood qualities that you need to grow during this period of pregnancy.
- Kindness
- Awareness
- Attention to detail
- Patience
- Acceptance
- Enjoyment
- Problem solving
- Doing
- Working along side
Men have a choice, babies and women don’t
Once a baby starts growing there is a biological mandate to continue its growth toward birth. Every single moment of your baby’s life is full on and full steam ahead. Your baby does not take one moment to rest in its development.
Because your baby is growing inside the woman’s body she also is required to grow whether she wants to or not. The first phase of pregnancy for women is full of physical changes and if she has morning sickness she may experience weeks and weeks of feeling poorly. This is difficult to deal with.
As a man you have a choice. You can either require your own personal growth at this time so by the time of your baby’s birth you have taken yourself through this transformative period or you choose to delay that growth. If you choose the latter this can have huge negative impact on yourself, your baby and the woman in your life.
Frankly, if you delay your growth then when your baby is born you won’t be ready to be a father in a calm, confident and relaxed manner. Instead you’ll feel awkward and all thumbs. This means your baby will recognize your nervousness and the woman will think you’re incompetent.
So, this three part article is giving you the tools and skills to do your own growing.
Men ruled by their chest and heart
Although the feminist model would say they are ruled by their d… this is not so. Think about it. Men love to protect, problem solve, provide, embrace and nurture. These are all heart things. Besides women love a strong chest and strong arms. Women and babies love to be cuddled by a kind and strong man. So most of these qualities are heart qualities. The others are Mind qualities. When you join your Mind and heart then you truly become an amazing father as well as a mature adult.
Women are ruled by their reproductive organs even though they don’t always know it or acknowledge it. Women want to reproduce, grow, nurture and organize. Of course women also develop the same qualities as you do because they are actually human qualities. But at the core of feminine energy is ‘reproduction’.
Phase 2 of pregnancy
We discussed that Phase 1 of pregnancy exists while the woman’s uterus is still hidden inside her pelvis. Phase 2 takes place from when you can feel the top of the uterus until you can feel the baby move.
Already you’re beginning to realize that the public image of pregnancy is blg belly yet the first 3 months of your baby’s growth is hidden and the woman may not even ‘show’.
This next phase has the uterus grow from the top of the pubic bone to about the level of the belly button. However, even though your baby is growing and so is its home, the woman doesn’t feel the baby kick until about 20 weeks! That’s 5 months into pregnancy. Even then the kicking is just vague butterfly movements. By 24 weeks you might be able to catch a kick if you are patient.
Thankfully morning sickness is usually over and the woman’s emotional state tends to settle down. This period is actually quite a nice period of pregnancy particularly if the woman’s health is good.
But your baby can still feel very vague. Often the only indication of your baby’s growth comes from any ultra-sound done and those can be pretty weird to look at.
For many men once a woman begins to show, his pride and heart begin to expand. Whether anyone acknowledges this or not, you know you have reproduced and you’re proud of being able to impregnate a woman! This is cause for personal pride of course.
If your pregnancy came through more medical means then you have to get over the disconnect and remain connected. This is true for the women as well. Medical conception can often disrupt the emotional process but this is overcome by choosing to stay connected to your whole process.
Phase 3 … from 24 weeks to when you start a childbirth class