The Birth is going to happen. Hopefully we can catch you before this most important event and get you to spend a small amount of your precious Time during pregnancy to help your pregnant partner to prepare her pregnant body for The Birth. No kidding.
Birth is the most dynamic, transformative life-changing event and experience you and your partner will ever have. Before we talk about The Birth and how you can be an amazing, effective and admired birth-coach, we must tell you that you can achieve only if you learn birth-coaching skills. Without birth-coaching skills you are more likely to feel helpless, useless and even frightened.
The childbirth skills offered to you in Birthing Better Childbirth Preparation Online Courses were developed from ordinary men and women like yourself in the 1970’s in the United States. In other words, fathers like you were desperate to know how to help their wife/partner birth their baby.
You’re now about 36 weeks along and thinking more each day about THE BIRTH. No one can tell you what your birth will be like and you can practise beforehand. But what’s the big fuss anyway, childbirth is the only way our species reproduces, therefore it’s natural for women.
We shouldn’t have to learn how to birth should we? Back in the 1970’s, we wanted to learn how to give birth. Birth is natural and problems occur just like those connected to breastfeeding which is natural, back then we wanted to do our bit to reduce potential trauma and risk, we also wanted to have a positive birth in and around all the necessary assessments, monitoring procedures all the medical professionals believes is necessary to reduce trauma and risk.
Perhaps the US should adopt the midwifery model of care that is in New Zealand. Yet their caesarean rate has more than doubled under the midwifery model of care and is now over 30%, and how do I know that?
Because Common Knowledge Trust that produces BirthingBetter is located in New Zealand. Let’s get real about birth, birth is natural so is being hungry, horny and needing to void or being a good cook, good lover and going to the toilet are all learned skills.
Breast feeding is natural but it requires both the mother and the baby to become skilled. So what’ the difference about labour and delivery? Well, childbirth is infrequent, you can’t practise, you don’t know what it will be like, it can really hurt and it’s a big event.
Whether you’re having your first baby or your umpteenth, you can enrich and improve your personal experience and certainly the ability of your husband to coach you when you have good childbirth skills. Even back in the 1970’s, we wanted skills we could pass onto our children. So they had to be universal, applicable to any birth including planned or unexpected caesareans as well as planned or unexpected, unassisted births.
We wanted skills that adapted to the reality of the situation rather than have disappointment if our birth plans changed. So here’s another Pink Kit skill, it’s called Kate’s Kat. This skill keeps your sacrum mobile in labour and delivery. Having a mobile sacrum opens the pelvic tube, both the top and bottom; it relieves back aches, gives your baby room, helps dilate the cervix and finally helps your baby move into the birth canal in the second stage. Forget pressing on the sacrum that just closes the pelvic tube even if it helps the mother. You assist both the mother and baby with Kate’s Kat.
Doing Kate’s Kat moves your sacrum unlike the pelvic rock that moves the whole pelvis as one unit. Once you learn Kate’s Kat you can do this in all positions and your husband can remind you at least once an hour. So stand up with relaxed knees, hold onto your big hip blade so you don’t thrust your pelvis forward, now tuck your tail, this movement opens the top of the pelvic tube and then reverse the motion and move your tail backward, this opens the bottom of the pelvic tube.
Just keeping your sacrum mobile tells your baby you’re creating room inside. Practise this in every position and posture; make this one of your childbirth skills. One woman could only do this when she said to herself ‘point my rectum to the floor’ which is a tucked tail and ‘now pull my rectum to the back wall’ which is untuck the tail, whatever works; this is one of the great BirthingBetter skills. So learn more about creating space inside your pelvis.