Look back on your appointments with your obstetrician. What were they like? Did you spend lots of time with him/her? Were your appointments satisfying? Did you get your questions answered? Did your obstetrician go back to your home, hold your hand, get you through your day so at the end of the day you felt you had had a great day and done well? Think about what seems to be an absurd question. If your obstetrician did not spend every moment of one day in your life, trust us, your obstetrician is not going to sit by your bed in hospital while you’re giving birth? Your obstetrician absolutely wants the best for you and your baby. Your obstetrician will come in and check you periodically after you’ve been admitted to the birth unit in your hospital and then come back for the delivery of your baby.
How will you fill your Time?
The Birth is an activity that takes place between Time A and Time Z then it’s over and can’t be replayed over again the next day. This means you need to think about how you’ll fill your Time during The Birth.
There are two things you need to know
- Between these visits you will still breathe.
Don’t expect your obstetrician to breathe for you or with you. LEARN HOW TO BREATHE WELL.
- Staff CNMs or obstetrical nurses will periodically come in a do whatever childbirth assessments are necessary … you still breathe. Don’t expect staff CNMs or obstetrical nurses to do the labour for you. LEARN HOW TO RELAX.
If ‘they’ won’t do birth for you, what’s left? … You and your birth coach have the task of working together during all your labour contractions. You and your birth-coach need to work together to relax and use good breathing patterns if you’re being prepped for a c-section and during surgery.
Your obstetrician wants you and your partner to have a positive and safe birth
Obstetricians want couples to work together well in childbirth particularly once the birth contractions get more painful. Obstetricians don’t want to see you suffer and they know that childbirth can be painful BUT they will never stop you from managing your painful contractions well.
‘Our doctor loved that we didn’t need any pain relief. She said to us .If you need something you can have it, but it’s always better for your baby if you can handle labour pains without pain relief.’
Ramona and Juan G…
‘I do recommend to my patients that they learn how to breath and relax during labour. I’ve seen some wonderful births with couples who have used The Pink Kit resources. I fact I used them myself for both my births.’
Dr. Fran B ….
Your obstetrician will leave you in the capable hands of your hospital midwives/obstetrical nurses who absolutely love seeing birthing women cope well with labour pain and adore fathers who are great birth coaches.
Fill your Time with using great birth skills.