This is the Birth Story.
‘The Pink Kit is truly a fantastic resource for pregnant women and their partner who want to take control of their birthing experience … and this does not mean having a home birth or anything like that. The skills gave me the confidence to have our beautiful baby girl without the anxiety and uncertainty that I had previously felt. For my husband the skills were life changing! The resources helped us to understand my body completely and the internal work we did made absolutely certain I had no ring of fire nor was our baby’s birth delayed. I required absolutely no sutures after sustaining a massive 2nd degree tear with lots of remaining scar tissue with my first birth. I took notes of the skills and positions and we took that crib sheet with us. My husband put it on the table in the hospital room and periodically read it out loud to me. This kept me focused and in charge. I had a job to do and I did it beautifully and so did my husband. What a stark difference between this birth and our first. I performed the sacral rock to help with the back pain and the pelvic clock exercises between contractions. My husband assisted me with the sitbone spread when the contractions became more intense and when I had a moment at the beginning of 2nd stage when I felt my baby was sort of stuck. I found doing this really beneficial. Throughout the labour I also found the directed breathing so beneficial in coping with the pain that I relied less on my husband and the hand-gripping stuff I had submitted him to the first time round. He worked with me but could see I was totally in control! The Pink Kit has made my birthing experience a fantastic one and empowered us to take charge of our birth and to progress from 1st stage through 3rd stage in 5 hours total compared to the lingering 14 hours of ‘active’ labour with my first baby. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am a true believer in birth skills and so is my husband’.
For us to collectively grow a society that believes it’s common sense to have a Skills-based childbirth trend and skills-based approach to all pregnancies and every birth then we have to know specifically why. What are the benefits for families and babies.
- This woman talks again about how transformed her husband was just by learning birth coaching skills so he actually knew how-to help her. What’s that worth to you as a pregnant woman? Expectant father? Someone who has a son,brother, nephew or friend who is pregnant? Don’t you want this father-to-be to feel confident of himself and know exactly how to help his pregnant partner prepare for the birth of their baby and help her navigate the birth journey? Talk about this with others. Let them know that fathers can be wonderful birth coaches.
- This skilled woman talks about the difference from feeling in control as a skilled birthing woman compared to feeling overwhelmed at her first birth. She tells you how overwhelmed she was by talking about just squeezing her husbands hand!
- Wow, she talks about knowing what to do when she felt her baby was slightly stuck. They had a skill and she knew it was working! What’s that worth as a birth memory? Remember every Birth Story is a memory that lasts a Life Time.
- Did she tell you learning and practicing was horrible, boring, took heaps of time from their busy life as parents in a working family? No. In fact, learning was so simple they made a Big 10 list of their favorite skills to go over during the birth.
- No ring of fire? That’s worth doing The Internal Work. Healing extensive scar tissue that might cause pain on intimacy. That’s worth doing The Internal Work.
- And what’s it worth to a man when he sees his wife coping well with the natural occurring pain of contractions? This time he could see she was managing well. This leaves every man less stressed. No husband/partner wants to see a birthing woman suffer from the pain. He saw with his own eyes the beauty of a birthing woman.
- For all we know she could be at home birthing or with tubes coming out every hole in hospital having been induced, her water bag broken, vaginal exams every 2-4 hours, having to stay in bed, constantly fetal monitored. We don’t know. What we know is how empowered she and her husband felt.
Growing a Skills-based Childbirth Trend is up to you. We can continue to put out one Birth Story after another. We have 45 years of them! We can continue to decode them and bring up the benefits for a skilled birthing population for all pregnancies and every birth and explain again and again the nonsensical resistance that the concept seems to stimulate in the present childbirth trend. And we’ll continue as long as necessary because these Birth Stories mean something to this family and to our societies. Birth Stories like this could be common place and then the rift in childbirth would be greatly reduced.
Here’s a link. This link will be put on all the posts. Kristen has 6 kids, the last 3 are PK babies. She KNOWS about birth and is one of our affiliates. That means if you purchase The Pink Kit through her she gets a commission. Her husband Scott’s first baby was a Pink Kit experience. He’ll explain how The Pink Kit made certain he was able to become a skilled birth coach to a woman who had previously had three great births.!
Kristen’s written a time-line calendar for use of The Pink Kit. You just need to sign up to her mail list (we don’t keep a mail list) and she’ll send you the Time Line. She’s worked through both Edition #2 and #3 of The PInk Kit so she knows all it’s imperfections and la-dee-dahs past them to the skills she wants to improve for each birth. Can women and men have better births each time? Sure can! The more skilled, the more we master the experience.
http://blog.naturalbirthandbabycare.com/pink-kit-timeline-from-natural-birth-and-baby-care-com/
Please join the Movement to grow a Skills-based childbirth trend. Don’t’ let another birth go by without that family being skilled.
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