Like many of us who crave a natural birth we will do just about anything we can do to achieve one. Do you feel like that too?
So what are the things you’re putting in place to have the natural birth you want?
- Researching like mad
- Writing a thorough Birth Plan
- Carefully choosing your birth provider
- Thinking carefully about whether your natural birth should take place at home or in hospital or Birth Center
- Eating well
- Exercising
- Reading everything that supports natural birth
- Staying away from people and Birth Stories that are negative
Did we leave anything out?
Like many women wanting a natural birth you take huge pride in the responsibility you are taking to achieve the birth you want.
Birthing Better families want you to add one more thing to this list … become a highly skilled birthing mother-to-be and get your partner/other to become a highly skilled birth coaching dad/other.
Take a look at the list above. What does that list really say?
- You are choosing what you want and don’t want.
- You are doing what you’ve been told or believe is necessary to achieve a natural birth.
- You are developing a positive attitude toward your coming birth.
No where in that list do you mention how you are planning to behave, cope with, work through, deal with and manage the natural occurring pain of natural birth OR how you can reduce or prevent the common causes of transfer … delay in either 1st or 2nd stage.
Primarily all families have the same goals:
- have as safe a birth as possible
- feel confident facing the unknown of your coming birth
- stay in control and on top of what will happen to you during the birth
- look back on your birth with dignity and pride
But safety without satisfaction is often what women experience when they don’t feel confident or lose control over their birth. And safety alone may not lead to positive birth memories. Giving birth is much more than the safety of mother and baby but that really is the bottom line.
Birthing Better skills were developed by hundreds of families who wanted a natural birth.
Why would Birthing Better families develop a comprehensive set of skills to:
- prepare the pregnant body to give birth naturally.
- work through every moment of the birthing experience from both the role of the birthing mother and coaching father/other.
Birthing Better families created these phenomenal skills because ultimately being a skilled birthing mother and skilled coaching dad were the only sure fire way to achieve the initial four goals.
Probably the question that comes to your mind is this: ‘Shouldn’t I just trust birth since being pregnant and giving birth is such a natural aspect of life?’
Yes, you should trust birth. Being skilled heightens your awareness, increases your intuitive responses and gives you the ability to stay totally connected to birthing your baby if naturally occurring issues arise and your birth circumstances change.
Birthing Better families want you to have the powerful skills to prepare your pregnant body to assist your baby’s efforts to open you, come down, through and out your birthing body. Starting anytime from 24 weeks onward thoroughly enjoy and delight in these natural childbirth preparation skills.
- The Hip Lift … create space for your baby inside your body
- Sacrum manoeuvre … create space, reduce chance of back labour, help a posterior baby turn and deal with any back labor that happens
- Pelvic Clock … soften inside your pelvis and help your cervix to open, reduce or prevent long 1st stage of labor.
- Sit Bone Spread … reduce or prevent long pushing stage of birth.
- More
As you prepare your pregnant body for your natural birth together with your partner/other you’ll also learn the exact skills to ‘do’ the birth. That might sound counterintuitive to the natural birth message but the concept of knowing how-to birth is actually fundamental to achieving a natural birth. Having birth skills is no different from having skills to do anything else. You’re a better lover when you’re skilled. You’re a better parent when you’re skilled. And you’ll birth better when you are highly skilled.
Here are some of the exact birthing skills you and your partner will learn:
- Directed Breathing … yes, you’ll breathe all the time. Now you can learn the best breathing methods for you. Breathing skills that adapt and adjust and help you work through your baby’s birth well.
- Deep Touch Relaxation … it’s vitally important that you know exactly how-to relax during the birth whether you’re feeling pain, having medical interventions done to you or just feel anxious.
- Working Together … yes, there are exact skills to work together with your partner and how to use both verbal and non-verbal communication well throughout your baby’s birth and afterwards.
- Niggling Labors … one of those natural issues that can lead to more interventions.
- Internal Work … you will naturally stretch in your vagina however, a delay in 2nd stage can also lead to interventions as well as cause damage to your body.
These Birthing Better skills are delivered to you in an online childbirth preparation course AND download of all the Birthing Better multi-media resources.
Your natural birth will eventuate because you birthed effectively … no joke. To have a natural birth you must dilate your cervix in a reasonable amount of time, cope reasonably well and not lose the plot and get your baby out your vagina without too much delay.
There is no way to know how your birth will unfold. Unfortunately too many women who want and carefully plan a natural birth find their circumstances change. So, your goal has to be:
- to achieve your planned natural birth
- to birth well under every circumstance
As outrageous as it sounds Birthing Better families have achieved a natural birth in both situations. They birth better and more likely to naturally achieve a spontaneous and normal birth from start to end. They birth better when more medical care becomes part of their birth experience because they drill down on the skills they use. Birthing Better families are committed to birthing their babies well no matter the circumstances or situation.
Add to your list a willingness to prepare your pregnant body appropriate to give birth and learn, practice and use your highly refined birth and birth coaching skills throughout your baby’s birth. Only you can truly birth well. Join the 1000’s of Birthing Better families who created these skills just for you and your natural birth.